Getting Caught Up in a Triangle - Part 1

We all have been caught up in them.  Many times, we unwittingly create the triangle ourselves or are pulled into one and often many. The triangle to which I am referring is the 3-way network created via a disagreement or otherwise negative issue, particularly in the workplace.

Unfortunately, it is a natural reaction when we feel slighted, injured, or aggrieved to seek justification for and affirmation of our feelings from others.  

How many times have you been approached by Person A who has an issues with Person B?  You become Person C.  Most times, we try to remain neutral or side with Person A until Person B approaches and shares their version of the incident.  The two individuals who have the issue, Persons A and B, should be working it out between themselves have brought you in.  Sound familiar?  I know I have played all three roles over the years in my many triangles.  Why?  The vast majority of us loathe conflict and seek an intermediary or a sounding board.

From personal experience, attempting to be the mediator or peacemaker is often fraught with risk and makes one susceptible to crossfire.  My one big life lesson from this experience? Always remember that there are 3 sides to a story:  yours, mine, and somewhere in between, the truth.

Many times, particularly in the workplace, someone is the annointed Person C due to their objectivity, fairness, integrity, and wisdom.  They, too, perpetuate triangle creation whether they realize it or not. 

These triangles occur not only in the office setting but also in our personal life.  They pop up at home, between siblings, roommates, and even in a church or association setting. 

In coming blogs, I'll post thoughts on how can we can streer clear of or even work to minimize triangular behavior in the workplace.